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I will not be your helpful friend, able to give you credit, and thank you, for things that do not appear to me as helping me. I would be false to myself, and it would be counterfeit gratitude in that case. What I am saying is that this path is not often rewarding, and very difficult in fact, when dealing with other people who are not yet able to see what you see.
A helpful friend is honest. Honest to themselves and honest to their friends.
An unhelpful friend is dishonest. Dishonest to themselves and dishonest to their friends.
Dishonesty can come in the form of trying to soften the truth or to avoid hurting another person because the truth may be too damaging to the friendship.
I prefer an honest friend. Truth spoken in love is friendship. Truth spoken in hate is not honest. I trust that you will speak the truth in love. I am not talking of a romantic love, I am speaking of a love every human should have for their fellow human: Brotherly Love.
Truth spoken in brotherly love is helpful.
I too try as hard as I may, to speak the truth to you in brotherly love. At the point you ask me not to speak truth, I will stop. That too would be out of brotherly love: Kindness and Respect for your boundaries. I think helpful friendship can exist with boundaries. However, then there are boundaries, so the friendship does not accomplish all that it may.
I think that some people cannot exist with the damage honesty brings to their perception of reality.
I understand much more than I understood when you first began to help me see. I still at times have a hard time accepting that the reality I once perceived never even existed.
I think that people who cannot exist with the damage that the truth brings in a way are like people who are physically traumatized and protective shock takes over the physical body to preserve the internal organs so that live can be prolonged. I think some comas work in that fashion as well. There are also times that doctors put people into comas thru medicines so that the body can work on healing itself.
Joe, the reality of Legal Crime and the softness that most Americans have been brought up in clash. Your mom had hard times, but she did not see the physical slaughter of her family. She did not see her children starve to death. For the most part, life in America is good. We have plenty to eat and modern conveniences. Rarely do we face wondering where the next morsel of bread will come from.
There are people in Haiti, children...families, who are lucky to have one small meal a day.
So, it was hard for your mom to really understand all that you understand. She was dealing with her life slipping away. It is hard to wake up even when health exists. It was hard for her to even comprehend that you could believe the things that you believe. My mom for the most part does not want to hear it. It is too much. It is much easier to exist in the perception of the goodness and abundance that does exist instead of the abundance that could exist. It is more comforting to believe that votes count and that elected, paid, officials care and want to do good for the people they represent. I remember when looking at the trails in the sky brought horror to me. It was too much. I remember when you showed me the Economic Hit Man. The horror of what people do for money to other people and countries was too much. I remember when I saw Gadhafi murdered for public viewing. It was too much. Truth was too much. It hurt too much to know the truth and to have my pie in the sky perception shattered into a million pieces. It doesn't hurt so much now. My pop knows. He was a soldier in Korea like your dad. All he had to say to me was, "I don't know what can be done about it."
I still have a hard time with the Pilger information. Perhaps it is too much. Perhaps I rather believe that it is one-sided reporting. Perhaps I think that legal criminals within our country have destroyed our country by doing evil things to other countries so that we will easily be turned upon ourselves and then be overrun be the ilk of the legal criminals existing in other countries. Perhaps I would rather believe that Pilger is being used to turn us upon ourselves so that we can easily be turned. That one side of my perception. Perhaps it is too much for me to divide the patriotism that has been ingrained in me to accept that "our country" has been so evil. I understand that it is not "out country" that has done anything. I understand that it is specific evil people in our country who have done specific evil things.
But I also have been taught that the Communists will rewrite our history so that we do have a foundation to stand upon. I am not seeing red. I am stating something that I have been taught.
So it is hard to sort truth and error when error has been mixed with truth and accepted for one's whole life.
"We" funded Japan. "We" paid to have those Batan Death March Soldiers walk that road to their death and torture. I will not tell the widow in our town that information. She is 90+. What good would that information do other than to crush her?
Joe, I perceive that you hate the God that I love. That does not make me unhappy with your friendship. It makes me know that I have not explained well enough. There is so much I want to say.
Or did you mean something different when you said you would not be my helpful friend?
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